IS IT TRUE THAT THE MAJORITY OF THE INHABITANTS OF THE HELLFIRE WILL BE WOMEN?
Translated by Aboo ‘Imran Al-Mekseekee
Source DTSSBC who took it from Majmu’oo Fataawaa wa Rasaail Fadhellat-ish-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (2/25)
His eminence ash-Shaykh Muhammad bin Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen رَحِمه االلهwas asked: Is
there anything that states that the majority of the inhabitants of the hellfire will be
women and why?
Answer: This is correct. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said to them while he was giving them a
sermon: “O Assembly of women! Donate charity for indeed I have seen that you are
the majority of the inhabitants of the hellfire.” And it was relayed to the Prophet (peace be upon him)
in the same manner in which this questioner has asked that they asked him, “For
what O Messenger of Allah?” He said: “you curse a lot and you are ungrateful to
your male companion.” So the Prophet (peace be upon him) explained the causes of them being the
majority in the hellfire and that was due to their excessive verbal abuse, cursing,
insults and for being ungrateful with their male companion which is referring to the
husband so because of these reasons they will become the majority of the inhabitants
of the hellfire.
IF THE MEN WILL BE GIVEN HOUR ‘AYN (FEMALE MAIDSERVANTS) IN PARADISE THEN WHAT WILL THERE BE FOR THE WOMEN?
Translated by Aboo ‘Imran Al-Mekseekee
Source DTSSBC who took it from Majmu’oo Fataawaa wa Rasaail Fadhellat-ish-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (2/51, 52)
His eminence ash-Shaykh Muhammad bin Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen was asked: It has been mentioned that the men will be given the Hour ‘Ayn (female maid servants) in paradise so what will there be for the women?
Answer: Allah the Blessed and Most High says about the pleasure of the People of Paradise: “We have been your friends in the life of this world and are (so) in the Hereafter. Therein you shall have (all) that your inner-selves desire, and therein you shall have (all) for which you ask.”An entertainment from (Allâh), the Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. [Soorat Fussilat 31-32]
And the Most High says: “Therein all that inner-selves could desire, all that eyes could delight in and you will abide therein forever.” [Soorat Az-Zukhruf 71]
And as it is known marriage is the biggest thing that the souls desire so it will be
obtained in the paradise for its inhabitants whether they are male or female. So Allah
the Blessed and Most High will cause the woman to be married in paradise to her
husband that she was married to in the Dunyaa (the current life) as Allah the Blessed
and Most High says: “Our Lord! And make them enter the ‘Adn (Eden) Paradise (everlasting Gardens)
which you have promised them – and to the righteous among their fathers, their wives, and their offspring! Verily, You are the All-Mighty, the All-Wise.” [Soorat Ghafir 8]
A WOMAN DOES NOT GET MARRIED IN THIS LIFE OR SHE MARRIED A HUSBAND WHO DOES NOT GET TO PARADISE
Translated by Aboo ‘Imran Al-Mekseekee
Source DTSSBC who took it from Majmu’oo Fataawaa wa Rasaail Fadhellat-ish-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (2/52)
His eminence ash-Shaykh Muhammad bin Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen رَحِمه االلهwas asked: If a woman is from the inhabitants of paradise but did not get married in this life or she married but her husband is from those who will not enter paradise who will she be with?
Answer: The answer to this is taken from the general statement of the Most High: “Therein you shall have (all) that your inner-selves desire, and therein you shall have (all) for which you ask.”An entertainment from (Allâh), the Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” [Soorat Fussilat 31-32]
And from His Statement: “There will be therein all that inner-selves could desire, all that eyes could delight in and you will abide therein forever.” [Soorat Az-Zukhruf 71]
So if a woman is from the inhabitants of paradise and she did not get married or her husband is not from the inhabitants of paradise when she enters paradise there will be those who men did not get married from amongst the people of paradise and they are the most obedient of those men who did not marry they will have wives from the Hour ‘Ayn (female maid servants) and wives from the people of
the Dunyaa if they wish and if their souls desire that. Likewise we say in regards to the woman when she does not have a husband or she had a husband during the Dunyaa but he did not enter paradise with her then she will desire to marry so it will be necessary that there will be for her what she desires based on the generalities contained in these aforementioned verses.
And there has not reached me a specific text regarding this issue and its knowledge is
with Allah the Most High.
IF THE WOMAN WHO HAS TWO HUSBANDS IN THIS LIFE WHICH ONE WILL SHE MARRY IN THE HEREAFTER?
Translated by Aboo ‘Imran Al-Mekseekee
Source DTSSBC who took it from Majmu’oo Fataawaa wa Rasaail Fadhellat-ish-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (2/53)
His eminence ash-Shaykh Muhammad bin Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen رَحِمه االلهwas asked: If a woman had been married to two men in this life which one will she be with (on the Day of Judgment)? And why does Allah mention the wives for the men but does not mention the husbands for the women?
Answer: If a woman had two husbands in this life then she will pick from one of them on the Day of Judgment in paradise. If she was not married in this life then Allah Most High will her to be married to the one whom pleases her in paradise. The pleasures of paradise are not limited to males rather it is for the males and the females and from its pleasures is marriage.
The statement of the questioner that Allah Most High mentioned the Hour ‘Ayn (female maid servants) and that they are wives (for them) but He did not mention husbands for the women then we say on the contrary He mentioned the wives for the husbands because the husband is the pursuant and desirer of woman. So based on that the wives for the men in paradise were mentioned while He remained silent concerning the husbands for the women. That does not conclude that they will not have husbands rather they will have husbands that will be from the children of Adam.
THE WAR OF THE WOMEN
By Yahiya Emerick & Reshma Baig
A popular English saying says that “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.” The meaning being that if a woman feels like something unfair happened to her, her anger will be limitless. I’m not going to say that that is necessarily true or not, but I have seen shades of it in the world-wide war between women who wear the Hijab (head-scarf) and those who want to oppose it.
Why do I describe it as a war? If you have to ask then you haven’t been paying much attention to what women talk about in public meetings, articles, lectures, and even among themselves. The battle consists, quite interestingly, of four distinct war-fronts. There are
1) the women who wear Hijab out of conviction that it is the Islamic thing to do.
2) the women who wear it only because their mothers and grandmothers wore it; unaware of its true Islamic significance.
3) the non-Muslim feminists, rally against anything that covers up even one inch of the female form, but we already expected this from them.
4) there are the secular “Muslim” women, who almost never practice Islam anyway, but who have Muslim names and roots, who make it a point to appear at all Muslim gatherings with hair fashionably styled in full public glory.
For the sake of this article, one issue must be clear from the outset (so as not to ruffle the feathers of too many readers): An operative definition of the Hijab-wearing woman must be constructed. Albeit, as described above, not all Hijab wearers are alike. Women wear the Hijab for varying reasons. In reality, there also exists those noble and true Muslim sisters who wear Hijab because it is Islamically correct. They perceive it as intrinsically empowering. In addition, the Hijab is not a facade (the “I’ll wear Hijab then do whatever I like” attitude). The operative definition of a true Hijab wearing Muslim woman is one who correctly follows the guidelines of Qur’an and Sunnah and whose only motivation is to please Allah. (Qur’an 33:59)
This type of Hijab wearing woman is intelligent, Allah-fearing, overcoming the temporal trappings of the life of this world, and ultimately very happy with her decision. She is not out to please anyone except her Creator.
Now as stated previously, there are the four groups in this Battle of the Scarf. But it’s not a fair war. Although it would seem that there are two factions on each side, in fact, the culturally-based Hijab wearing women are no help to their Islamically-oriented sisters.
The cultural Hijab-wearers don’t look at their Hijab as an Islamic duty, but rather as an affiliation with some old-country culture. And in fact, they wear it only out of habit.
Obviously, then, the daughters of such women, feeling more “American” than Arab, Indian, Nigerian (or any culture transmitted by family origin), never wear the Hijab themselves because it’s just “culture” and thus the cultural women are no help in the Islamic struggle. Their own offspring become some other “culture” just as they are only motivated by what they grew up with themselves.
Have you ever seen the women, walking in “full” Hijab, but then their two or three daughters, even if they’re teenagers, are dressed completely like non- Muslims? It’s incredibly common. I feel like asking those mothers. Why are you even wearing Hijab if it wasn’t important enough for you to pass on to your daughters?
So the Islamically-oriented Hijab-wearers are quite alone in the face of the assault by the feminists/secular “Muslimahs”. The relationship between those two erstwhile allies is strange.
The agenda of the Western feminists has always been puzzling. They cry about equality and respect but then push for things that dehumanize women and put them at the mercy of merciless men. They’ll say women should be respected for their minds rather than for their bodies, but then they’ll say that women should go around in mini-skirts and g- strings. It’s funny how some ultra-Feminists argue with pride that the only professions in which women earn more money than men are prostitution and fashion modeling–then, while complaining against violence towards women, they try to encourage more women to be “empowered” by disrobing (utilizing work- place fashions that place more emphasis on the female figure rather than intelligence and qualifications).
Men are an aggressive lot. If you take away clothes from a woman, the man is not suddenly going to start respecting her. Rather he’s going to take it as a green light to chase after her. It’s interesting how so many male fashion designers are worshipped by Western, European, and now even “Muslim” women. (Armani, De La Renta, Gucci, Mizrahi, Lauren, etc…)
It doesn’t take an analyst from Fashion Avenue to figure out that a man will design clothes for women that fits one main criteria: That the outfit be pleasing and attractive to the eyes of a man. From this arises the catch- phrase: “powerful and sexy”. Some cultural “Muslims” with more of an interest in fashion (rather than their love for Allah) heed the call of Vogue, Glamour, and Cosmopolitan rather than the guidelines for dress in the Qur’an and Sunnah.
Unfortunately, both “Muslim” men and women have fallen prey to the paradigms of worldly dressing. (Is it really dress for success or dress for sex?). Some brothers are ashamed of their wives and daughters wearing the Hijab in public (the “you look too dowdy with that thing on your head” syndrome.) Some women discourage their own Muslim sisters from wearing the Hijab saying that they’ll “never succeed” or “just look old-fashioned and oppressed”, or as I’ve overheard time and time again, “you only need to wear Hijab on Eid or at Jumu’ah prayer”.
It must be added here that Muslim women are not being encouraged to dress dowdy, sloppy, or out of the “mode”. It is merely being asserted that what is touted as fashionable is not necessarily empowering–or flattering– in the real sense of the word. Islam arrived on the scene more than 1400 years ago to fortify a woman’s dignity; introducing the concept of “covering the parts that elicit desire”. Time and time again it is implored that “Allah is beautiful and loves beauty.” Our Creator made us beautiful and the dictates of “modern” fashion morph that beauty into something exploitative and ugly.
The feminists say that women should be free and independent, never relying on any man. So the message men extract from this is that now they can have as many lovers as they want and never have to be tied down to one woman ever again. Consequently, a woman who dates can expect to go from man to man for twenty years or more before she can succeed in tying one down in marriage. And now women have to dress even more alluring to attract men, and have to work harder to keep them around lest the “roving eye” spots another, younger, prettier catch. Women, as polls have shown, are more harried, stressed and suffering from acute eating and other disorders than ever before.
Feminists say that all spiritual traditions are male-oriented and have worked to keep women down. While this may be true in the case of Christianity, Hinduism and Judaism, these feminists have no knowledge of Islam. All they see is the stupid, chauvinistic cultural traditions of backward X,Y or Z Muslim country and they equate that with the teachings of Islam. Then pseudo- scholars from the West quote ayat and Hadith out of context and paint a picture of a barbaric religion which seeks death for all.
On the same level, there are also ethnic “Muslim” women out there who do more to disparage Islam and present apologetic misinformation than their non-Muslim associates. Case in point: In a recent New York Times article about the growing number of Hijab wearing women in America, a “Muslimah” doctor from Chicago is quoted as saying that “Hijab has nothing to do with Islam.” Her justification was that she was from Pakistan and it’s not important over there. This makes one wonder: Which version of Islam is that? Oh, the abridged version. (Qur’an 33:64-68)
At the same time there is the wave of Muslimahs in America who assert their identities as Muslims and are cognizant that the Hijab is a requirement. These are the sisters on the frontlines who you see in various workplace settings with their Hijabs. The Hijab, as many sisters have commented, changes everything. Peoples are compelled to see you as a Muslim and therefore must assess their own feelings about Islam and Muslims. Ill feelings and sincere understanding of the faith are put through the sieve that is the Hijab.
You can imagine the outrage feminists feel when they hear that women are leaving “liberated” Western-secular culture and accepting Islam. I once overheard one feminist say, “Why are they entering a religion that will oppress them.” It is so wired. If a woman walks down the street in a french- style head-wrap, nobody blinks an eye. If an old woman has a scarf or net wrapped around her head, nobody even looks. But the minute a woman walks in public with a scarf worn in typical Muslim style, people, women mostly, absolutely freak out. Otherwise nice women will start muttering insults or even yelling.
Of course, no one says anything bad when they see a statue of Mary wearing a veil- and she always has a veil on. And no one yells at nuns, many of whom dress more Islamically than most Muslim women. So why the anger at the Hijab? You know, there’s an interesting experiment you can try, and it may also save you from committing sins. Whenever a pretty girl walks by, almost every man looks at her, right? In Islam this is discouraged, for obvious reasons. But the next time you see a pretty woman walking by a stationary group of people, don’t look at the pretty woman, (save yourself from a sin,) instead, look at the faces of the other women as the pretty woman passes by them. You’ll be amazed to see that it’s the women who are most blatantly and closely watching the young debutante prance by. And the glances of the women will follow long after the men have lost interest.
It’s amazing! Women judge each other by their looks and appearances more than you would imagine. Especially non-Muslim women, who see the new female as a potential rival for male attention. When a Muslim woman, dressed according to her conscience, walks by, you see these same women grimace and make ugly faces. Why are they so threatened by a covered woman even more so than a half-naked one? Because the half-naked woman is only a rival for a man. The covered woman is a direct challenge to any woman’s whole being, sense of self and way of life. A modestly dressed, covered woman is a walking, talking challenge to the women (and men) who are sacrificing their Akhira for success on the terms of Dunya.
A woman in Hijab who is a functioning member of society is a clarion call to everyone around her. She symbolizes a woman who is empowered by Allah (swt) rather than by the shabby, eclectic, pop-cultural, spiritually bankrupt throngs who pass as the icons of contemporary society.
The average non-Muslim woman sees nothing wrong with unmarried sexual relations, drinking alcohol, smoking cigarettes, dancing with men, walking around half-naked, maybe taking drugs, gossiping, lying, using foul language, etc… (Who are all those immigrant Muslim men who race to marry such women and ignore their noble Muslim sisters?)
While the Muslim woman, in Hijab, radiates the exact opposite! She doesn’t engage in those things and rather tries to be humble, self-controlled, full of nobility and goodness and spiritually motivated. Non-Muslim women freak out because they feel so much shame deep down that they are so rotten and unclean! (Culturally-oriented Hijab-wearers don’t threaten them much because they usually are rude, loud and without inner-purity, as well. There is a style of Hijab and a look of inner-purity which distinguishes the conscientious Muslimahs from all others. You can see Taqwa in a person’s face!)
A Muslim woman, whose inner-purity is reflected in her behavior, is more beautiful than even the most sensually dressed non-Muslim. So many men I know have said this, both Muslim and non-Muslim! Men love to run after the easy women for “conquests” but they want to marry someone who is pure more than anything else in the world! Non-Muslim women are filled with their shame/rage and it makes them attack Islam and things Islamic with a venom more deadly than any Orientalist ever had.
So many Western women, despairing of the lifestyle in which women have been reduced to mere sex-objects for men, are leaving the immoral lifestyle for the Islamic one in huge numbers. It doesn’t matter if they find good husbands or not. They’re accepting Islam because it’s real, because it speaks to them as women.
But still the non-Muslim women twist their hands in rage. Now, because there is a whole class of Muslim immigrants who grew up worshipping America and the West, associating its technological advancements with its values, the non- Muslim feminists have a useful new tool in their fight against the one thing that shows them how wrong they are. These allies are the women with Muslim names who don’t practice Islam, or who at the very most consider Islam to be a praying and fasting “religion” and little else.
These “Muslim” women, who may be victims of backward cultural traditions, think that the “Muslim” culture they came from is what Islam is about. Well, if that was true, I wouldn’t like Islam either. I’m sure you’ll agree that Muslims are sometimes the worst examples of what Islam categorizes as bad. But most of us are intelligent enough to realize that just because I have to pay a bribe to the policeman or if a woman has to abort her daughter in favor of a male child in the future– it doesn’t mean that Islam teaches that.
But there are a whole class of “Muslims” who can’t seem to make such distinctions. They can’t seem to understand where culture ends and Islam begins; they can’t seem to let go of cultural values and adhere to the teachings of the Qur’an; they can’t seem to wash away the taint of culture to expose the illumination of Islam. That would require a sacrifice on their part. (Oh my god! If they followed true Islam they might have to allow their daughters to marry people of a different ethnic group. Can’t have that now!)
Already the feminists have destroyed Christianity and Judaism. Read that sentence over one time. Those two religions are now in the dust-bin of history, despite a cough from them every now and then, because they’re effectively marginalized. The feminists, without even understanding that Islam is best for them, have brought secular “Muslim” women into their ranks to show the world that Islam should become as quaint and marginalized in society as Christianity is now.
Just on a side note, you know how Christian missionaries are roving all over the world and making thousands of new converts every day? They brag about it and Muslims complain about it because countries like Indonesia and Nigeria are in danger of becoming “Christian” countries in a few decades. But wait a minute! Who are the Christians converting and who is becoming Muslim?
The Christians are converting ignorant villagers, uneducated natives and people with Muslim names who don’t know anything about Islam. While those who are accepting Islam are Jews and Christians- Westerners who are highly educated and have lived the secular way of life all their lives! The dumb become Christian while the educated become Muslim! There’s some food for thought!
Back to the war of the women: How have the feminists used these “secular Muslim” women? They have convinced some “Muslim” women that the path to money and power in this country is through bastardizing your own soul. By conforming to the heathen wishes of the majority, you can achieve loads of worldly success. That if you’re a working professional (in any field), that success can only be attained by ripping off the “oppressive weight” of your Hijab and donning a “powerful and sexy” power suit.
As many Hijab wearing, practicing Muslim sisters have commented, the Western feminist ideology only hurts those who are ready to sacrifice their Next Life for the success of the world. Our practicing, Hijab wearing sisters have proved time and time again that they can wear their Hijab and become teachers, doctors, nurses, accountants, principals, economists, professors, etc… On the same level, without sacrificing their identity as Muslims; they are accepting the challenge of success while not simultaneously sacrificing their Islam.
But the feminists have their ready slaves: there are “Muslim” women who are brought by the feminists to their seminars and meetings to give the “Muslim” voice (read: token “Muslim” woman who will lash out against Islam and emerge as the Renaissance Woman Who Emerged From Behind The Veil.) Because these women had no real belief anyway, they almost always parrot, quite shamelessly, the views of the feminists. Then these “Muslim” women become filled with the idea of a crusade against “oppression” in their ethnic communities. An Arab secular “Muslimah” will work her agenda in the Arab community; an Indo-Pak in that community, etc…
It’s easy for them to do this given that most of the Muslims who immigrated to this country are as of yet, unorganized and unaffiliated with any Masjid or organization. What’s more, we shoot ourselves in the foot because some of our centers are run by people who are also secular in their outlook and just want to be important in the eyes of their associates. (Qur’an 9:107-108)
The feminist “Muslimahs” set up clinics with free counseling (toward non- Muslim values), abortion facilities, women’s shelters and the like. (They get grants from universities, local governments and feminist organizations.) They say they’re helping, but by promoting values in the minds of the women they serve which are unIslamic, they really cause harm in the long run.
They literally make it seem as if all you have to do is remove the Hijab, wear a mini-skirt and give up Islamic teachings then all your problems will be solved. When the root of the problem to begin with is almost always someone in their lives, maybe themselves or their husbands, were not following Islam to begin with! The cure can never be the poison.
The culturally-based Muslim Hijab wearers are the most vulnerable. They are usually, and you know this is true, uneducated village-style women who will listen to anything that sounds “sophisticated”. Their Islam is usually a mixture of folklore, cultural traditions, superstitions and the like. They are the majority of women in the Muslim world. They’re not bad or evil or anything, they’re just completely unaware of real Islam.
The feminists and the secular “Muslimahs” want to “liberate” them into the great world of today’s used, worn-out, vulgar, “modern” Western woman.
The women who have either accepted Islam or who rediscovered it after living in a Muslim family are often quite alone. Those who love Allah by their own conviction and who seek to follow Islam truly are the enemies of the feminists, and by extension, of the Shaitan. The Shaitan calls people to forget Allah, to forget that they’re responsible for their actions and to forget that this life is a short time of testing. He lures people with their animalistic desires and their cravings for the best in life. He whispers that there are no moral standards and that you can do as you please. Those who accept this call, whether with Muslim names or non-Muslim ones, descend to the level of intelligent beasts. (See Qur’an 7:16-17)
I have personally witnessed confrontations between those who wear Hijab by conviction and those secular “Muslimahs” who say it’s not required. Every single time, the secular “Muslimahs” have utilized an insulting and nasty tone. Arguing with their worst faces. Of course, one of the signs of a hypocrite is that they’ll get nasty in a disagreement, but then again, they don’t accept the Hadith usually anyway, unless it seems to agree with their positions. (Qur’an 33:36)
The Muslim women who don’t yet wear Hijab, but who desperately want to, sometimes may become afraid of the mean-spirit of the secular “Muslimahs.” Nobody wants to be pointed out and nobody wants to be yelled at. I feel bad for these women. Their hearts and minds are tugging them towards true Islam but the nastiness of mean, shame/rage filled people make them afraid to wear Hijab. And sometimes the conscientious Hijab wearers don’t always know when to be gentle and don’t always encourage their sisters in a thoughtful, sisterly way. This as a result of always having to be on the defensive.
This war will go on for as long as there are women who believe in and love Allah. Many a Muslim man, whose own faith was weak, has fallen to it and pressured his wife or daughters not to wear Hijab. But in the end, the purity is the proof. A Muslimah in Hijab always looks purer than a woman in a mini- skirt. And a Muslimah in Hijab who practices Islam, will always be happier and free of shame, while a “liberated” woman has nothing but the empty standards of fashion magazines, western-style therapy, and empty and temporary “love” affairs to look forward to.
There is one incident that we’ll never forget. We were once at a Muslim youth rally on the east coast. There were hundreds of Muslim college students in attendance. As we were moving through the crowd we came upon a group of Hijab wearing sisters. One of the sisters, a young woman of about 18 or 20 was stating, “One thing that scares the heck out of everyone is an articulate, well dressed, intelligent, and professional Muslim sister wearing Hijab”. It’s true. Because they present the alternative that every woman can attain. That is the real equality and the real standard of respect. (See Qur’an 33:35)
The trouble is, so many people are so trapped in the sinful, immoral lifestyle of lies, substance abuse, irresponsibility and chaos, that their shame drives them merely further into rage.
We know of one mother, a Muslim woman, who sent her daughter to an Islamic school in Michigan. The daughter opened her eyes to Islam and wanted to wear her Hijab outside of school, in public, also. But her mother, who was a secular “Muslimah” forbade her to wear Hijab saying, “I won’t have my daughter being better than me.” May Allah help us and the Muslim women who strive to please their Maker and ultimate judge. Amin.
*** The authors would like to state that this article is not intended to disparage those Muslim sisters who do not take Hijab for whatever personal reason. It is understood that a sister will take Hijab when she is ready since there is no compulsion in Islam. At the same time, according to the Qur’an, Hijab is a fard and this fact cannot be overlooked. (Qur’an 33:59)
Allah (swt) is the final judge. May he give us all courage.
WOMEN HAVE A SHORTCOMING IN UNDERSTANDING AND RELIGION
Shaykh Bin Baz
Question: We always hear the Hadith, “Women have a shortcoming in understanding and religion.” Some of the men state it to insult women. We would like you to explain to us the meaning of that Hadith.
Answer: The Prophet’s words and their explanation is as follows: “I have seen none having more of a shortcoming in reasoning and religion yet, at the same time, robbing the wisdom of the wisest men than you.” They said, “O Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) what is the shortcoming in our reasoning?” He said “Is it not the case that the testimony of two women is equivalent to that of one man” They said, “O Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), what is the shortcoming in our religion” He said, “Is it not the case that when you have your menses you neither pray or fast?”1
The Prophet (peace be upon him) explained that their shortcoming in reasoning is found in the fact that their memory is weak and that their witness is in need of another woman to corroborate it. Therefore, it is related to non-proficiency in witnessing due to woman’s forgetfulness or she may add something in her witnessing.
As for the shortcoming in her religion, it is because when they are menstruating or having post-partum bleeding, they neither pray nor fast, and they do not make up their prayers, and this is their shortcoming in the religion. However, they are not to be blamed for that shortcoming. This has been imposed by the Law of Allah. He is the one who laid down such legislation in kindness and ease upon her. This is because if she were to fast while menstruating or post-partum bleeding, this would harm her. It is from the mercy of Allah that she is sanctioned not to fast.
As for the prayer, during menses, she is in a situation that keeps her from being purified. It is again from Allah’s mercy that He has commanded that they do not pray while they are menstruating as well as during post-partum bleeding. He has also ordered that they do not make up their prayers. This is because if they were ordered to make up their prayers, it would be a hardship upon them. Prayer is repeated five times in a day and night. Menses may last for a number of days, up to seven or eight or more. Post-partum bleeding lasts for forty days. It is from the mercy of Allah and His goodness to them that they are not obliged to perform or make up the prayers of such conditions. However, this does not mean that they have a shortcoming in understanding in everything or that they have a shortcoming in religion in every matter.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) made it clear that their shortcoming in understanding is with respect to their non-proficiency and in religion with respect to their not praying or fasting during menstruation or post-partum bleeding. This also does not mean that she is less than men in every matter or that men are superior to her in every aspect. Yes, as a class, men are superior to women in general. This is true for a number of reasons, as Allah has stated, “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made the one of them to excel the other, and because they spend [to support them] from their means” (al-Nisa 34).
However, she may excel him in many matters. How many women are greater than many men with respect to their intelligence, religion and proficiency. It has been narrated from the Prophet (peace be upon him) that women as a species or class are less than men in understanding and religion from the point of view of the matters that the Prophet (peace be upon him) himself explained.
A woman may perform many good deeds and exceed many men in her good deeds, her fear of Allah and her place in the Hereafter. She may concentrate on some matters and her proficiency may be much greater than many men in many issues that concern her and in which she exerted her memory and proficiency. She may be a reference, for example, in Islamic history and many other matters. This is something very clear to anyone who pondered the state of the women during the time of the Prophet (peace be upon him) and afterwards. From this, one knows that her shortcoming does not mean that she cannot be relied upon for narrations. Similarly, if her witness is supported by another woman, it is accepted.
There is nothing that prevents her fear of Allah from making her one of the best of the servants of Allah and one of the best women-servants of Allah. This is if she is steadfast in her religion and she is not obliged to fast or pray while menstruating or having post-partum bleeding. If she does not have to pray or make up her prayers that does not necessitate that she has a shortcoming in every matter related to fear and obedience of Allah or her fulfilling of her duties upon her.
With respect to her proficiency, she has a specific shortcoming, as the Prophet (peace be upon him) explained, and that does not mean that it can be generalized. A believer may not accuse her of having a shortcoming in everything or a weakness in her faith in every matter. It is a particular shortcoming in her religion and a particular shortcoming in her reasoning that is related to the proficiency of the witness and so forth. One must be fair to her and understand the words of the Prophet (peace be upon him) in the best and most appropriate manner. And Allah knows best.
- 1. Recorded by al-Bukhari and Muslim
THE IDEAL MUSLIMAH
Dr Muhammed Ali Al Hashimi
The Muslim woman does not neglect to polish her soul through worship, Dhikr, and reading Quran; she never neglects to perform acts of worship at appointed times.
Just as she takes care of her body and her mind, she also takes care of her soul, as she understands that the human being is composed of a body, a mind and a soul, and that all three deserve appropriate attention. A person may be distinguished by the balance he or she strikes between body, mind and soul, so that none is cared for at the expense of another. Striking this balance guarantees the development of a sound, mature and moderate character.
She performs acts of worship regularly and purifies her soul.
The Muslim woman pays due attention to her soul and polishes it through worship, doing so with a pure and calm approach that will allow the spiritual meanings to penetrate deep into her being. She removes herself from the hustle and bustle of life, and concentrates on her worship as much as she as she is able to. When she prays, she does so with calmness of heart and clearness of mind, so that her soul may be refreshed by the meaning of the words of Quran, dhikr, and tasbih that she is mentioning. Then she sits alone for a little while, praising and glorifying Allah, and reciting some ayat from His Book, and meditating upon the beautiful meanings of the words she is reciting. She checks her attitude and behavior every now and then, correcting herself if she has done anything wrong or fallen short in some way.
Thus, her worship will bring about the desired results of purity of soul, cleansing her of her sins, and freeing her from the bonds of Shaytan whose constant whispering may destroy a person. If she makes a mistake or stumbles from the Straight Path, the true Muslim woman soon puts right, seeks forgiveness from Allah (Azzawajal), renounces her sin or error, and repents sincerely. This is the attitude of righteous Allah-fearing Muslim women.
“Those who fear Allah, when a thought of evil from Shaitan assaults them, bring Allah to remembrance, when lo! They see aright.”
Therefore, the Prophet (sul-Allah-o-alaih-wussallum) used to tell his Companions: “Renew your faith.” He was asked, “Oh Messenger of Allah, How do we renew our faith?” He said,” By frequently repeating la ilaha ill-Allah.” Reported by Ahmad (2/359) with jayyid isnad
The Muslim woman always seeks the help of Allah (Azzawajal) in strengthening and purifying her soul by constantly worshipping and remembering Allah (Azzawajal), checking herself, and keeping in mind at all times what will please Allah (Azzawajal).
So whatever pleases Him she does, and whatever angers Him, she refrains from. Thus, she will remain on the Straight Path, never deviating from it or doing wrong.”
“The Muslim woman is keen to attend gatherings where there is discussion of Islam and the greatness of its teachings regarding the individual, family, and society, and where those present think of the power of Almighty Allah (SubhanwaTa’ala) and His bountiful blessings to His creation, and encourage one another to obey His commandments, heed His prohibitions and seek refuge with Him. In such gatherings, hearts are softened, souls are purified, and a person’s whole being is filled with the joy of faith.
So ‘Abdullah ibn Rawahah whenever he met one of the Companions of the Prophet (sul-Allah-o-alaih-wussallum) used to say, “Come let us believe in our Lord for a while.” When the Prophet (sul-Allah-o-alaih-wussallum) heard about this, he said, “May Allah have mercy on Ibn Rawahah, for he loves the gatherings that the angels feel proud to attend.” Reported by Ahmed (3/265) with Hasan isnad
The rightly guided Khalifa ‘Umar al-Faruq used to make the effort to take a regular break from his many duties and the burden of his position as ruler. He would take the hand of one or two men and say, “Come on, let us go and increase our faith,” then they would remember Allah (Azzawajal). Hayat al-Sahabah, 3/329
Even Umar, who was so righteous and performed so many acts of worship, felt the need to purify his soul from time to time. He would remove himself for a while from the cares and worries of life to refresh his soul and cleanse his heart. Likewise, Muadh ibn Jabal would often say to his companions, when they were walking, ” Let us sit down and believe for a while.”
Al Jumuah Magazine
Allah (SWT) lifted from women the obligation of working to provide and support themselves and their families. He made this obligation particular for men alone. Allah (SWT) commanded men to be responsible for the care of women during all stages of their life.
While she is a child, she is under the care of her father. This responsibility is not lifted except by her marriage or (his/her) death, nor does it cease after she reaches a certain age as occurs in the laws of the ignorant who rule by their desires.
After she marries, the responsibility falls on her husband so long as she is under his care due to the contract of marriage.
If she has neither father nor husband, the responsibility of her care falls on her brother who assumes the role of her father when he is not present; and if she has no brother then whoever is her closest male relative from whom she would inherit and whom would inherit from her (would assume the role of her father).
If she has no male relative, the obligation falls upon the Muslim community. The responsibility of her care is a communal obligation and if none fulfills that duty, all have sinned.
Furthermore even if she is wealthy, Islam has dropped from her the obligation of assuming care of anyone. With the presence of her husband (or for that matter her parents), it is not required that she spend upon her children unless she seeks to do such as an act of righteousness, kindness and maintaining ties of the womb. She is not obligated to work in order to take care of herself or her children.
This lifting of the obligation of working for the purpose of providing for herself was in order to preserve her from being degraded, as many jobs that are sought to gain livelihood entail humiliation and hardship. Likewise this responsibility was lifted to preserve her from temptation and mixing with men and because this is from the specialization that Allah (SWT) has made as a law for His creation.
If a woman were charged to work in order to provide for her livelihood in addition to her natural duties of pregnancy, child birth, and breast feeding this would be an obligation above what she could bear and would be an injustice to women. Otherwise this work would be at the expense of her natural duties of pregnancy, birth, breast feeding and raising her children.
This is exactly what has occurred with all nations that have deviated from what Allah (SWT) has made a natural state among His creation.
In these ignorant un-Islamic societies, men are pleased with this situation as this gains for them greater gratification with women and drops from them a considerable amount of the responsibility of working and supporting their women and children. This is obviously a selfish attitude on the part of men. Sadly many women are pleased with this situation of combining working outside the house to support themselves, and their natural duties of pregnancy, child birth, and breast feeding. This is because of their desire for amusement and to boast; not because there is any real human or moral value in their working outside the home. Unlike what is claimed, women’s work has no real value boosting the economy. Rather the truth is that by competing with men for jobs outside the home, women are a cause in the spread of unemployment and an increase in the useless consumption of cosmetics, clothes, and perfumes that have all become necessary items for women working outside the home. Furthermore every woman that works outside the home is in most occasions a cause for denying an opportunity for a man who could work in her place. Again this is one factor in unemployment. Moreover the man who takes the place of a woman in the household cannot substitute her in her natural duties.
We may ask, what is the economic, moral, or social value for women working in factories, armies, cleaning streets and airports, repairing trains, cleaning public restrooms, as security guards, driving taxis, and all other occupations that humiliate women in those countries that live for this world alone and do not think of the Hereafter?
This is all from the wretched life that Allah (SWT) has warned whoever distances himself from His way. Allah (SWT) has said: “But whosoever turns away from My Reminder (neither believes in this Quran nor acts on its orders, etc.) verily, for him is a life of hardship, and We shall raise him up blind on the Day of Resurrection. He shall say: “O my Lord! Why have you raised me up blind, while I had sight (before).” (Allah) will say: “Like this, Our Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, leassons, signs, revelations, etc.) came unto you, but you disregarded them (i.e. you left them, did not think deeply in them, and you turned away from them), and so this Day, you will be neglected (in the Hellfire, away from Allah’s Mercy).” (Ta-Ha 20:124-126)
Although Islam has not obligated a woman to work to seek a living and has appointed someone to be responsible for her during all the stages of her life, Islamic law has given her the right (so long as she has reached the age of maturity and is competent) to own and dispose of her properties without any guardianship over her (whether that be her father, husband or anyone else).
She has the right to own all forms of property, to buy and sell, give gifts and charity, and all forms of expenditure (without wastefulness) so long as it is her wealth and her acquisition. However if she if incompetent, Islam does not distinguish between men and women in declaring someone legally incompetent. Islam gave women the right to own and dispose property, so that by this she could be a full legal personality possessing the full right to administer her wealth. Islam provides her with specific sources to acquire wealth, like the dower, inheritance, gifts, and all other lawful means for acquiring wealth. As a woman in Islamic law is not required to maintain herself or others, she was given half of what men receive in inheritance in view of the fact that she is not responsible for the maintenance of anyone and to replenish men’s wealth who alone are responsible to work and provide maintenance.
In this matter, Islam opposed the ignorant un-Islamic practice that forbade women to inherit under any circumstance because they did not maintain anyone or fight against any enemy. Allah (SWT) sent down in His Glorious Quran: “There is a share for men and a share for women from what is left by parents and those nearest related, whether, the property be small or large – a legal share.” (An-Nisa 4:7)
Without doubt those who claim that Islam is unjust towards women because it gives them half of what men receive in inheritance are ignorant of the distribution of rights and obligation in the pure, just Islamic law. Allah (SWT) says: “Do they then seek the judgement of (the Days of) Ignorance? And who is better in judgement than Allah for a people who have firm Faith.”(Al-Ma’idah 5:50).
HEROIC DEEDS OF MUSLIM WOMEN
By Syed Sulaiman Nadwi
The history of Islam abounds in scores of such gallant actions on the part of Muslim women, but, unfortunately, they are not commonly known
Prior to Islam, the Arab women used to accompany men to the battlefield. With their children, they remained behind the fighting lines and looked after the wounded soldiers, attended the horses, comforted their valiant husbands, roused their spirit by narrating the thrilling achievements of their ancestors, disarmed the dead soldiers of the enemy, rallied the panic-stricken fugitives, and guarded the prisoners.
The famous poet of Arabia, ‘Umar Bin Kulthum, recites in pride: “Behind our ranks are beautiful and whitefaced women; we are always afraid lest they should be insulted, and the enemy take possession of them. These women have taken oaths from their husbands to show gallantry in the field of battle. They accompany us, so that they may take possession of, and arrest, enemies’ horses and armaments. These are the ladies of the family of Jashm b. Bakr, who not only possess beauty, but also have traditions both of family and religion. They look after our horses and they say, ‘If you cannot protect us from the enemy you are not our husbands.”
Islam also maintained this tradition. Women always followed men in the Jihad. In the battle of Uhud, according to Bukhari, ‘Ayesha (raa) carried a leather bag full of water to quench the thirst of wounded soldiers. She was helped in the task by Umm Salim and Umm Salit.
The traditionist Abu Nayeem relates that in the battle of Khaibar, half a dozen women of Medina followed the marching army. The Prophet did not know of this and, when he was informed, he angrily asked them why they had come at all. They reverently answered that they had medicines with them, that they would nurse and dress the wounded, take out arrows from the bodies of the soldiers, and arrange for their rations. The Prophet allowed them to accompany the army, and, when Khaibar was conquered, he gave a share of the war booty to these women also.
In a number of battles, Umm Salim and a few other ladies of the Ansar rendered similar service. Rabi, daughter of Muaz, along with other women, performed the duty of carrying the martyrs and the wounded from the battlefield of Uhud to Medina. Umm Raqida had a pavilion for the wounded, where she washed and dressed their wounds.
Umm Zaid, Ashjiya, and five other ladies helped the Muslims during the battle of Khaibar, by working at spinning wheels. They picked up arrows from the field, and offered grain flour (Sattu) to the soldiers.  Umm Attiya cooked for the Companions in seven battles. 
Tabari writes of one occasion when the corpses of the Muslim soldiers lay in great numbers in the van. The group of men appointed for burying the martyrs commissioned women to look after the wounded. In the battles of Aghwath and Armath, fought in connection with that of Qadisiya, women and children dug graves. 
The battle of Qadisiya is described thus by a woman w o was present: “When the battle was over, we (women) rushed forward daringly to the battlefield with rods in our hands and picked up the wounded Muslim soldiers.” 
The above incidents, however, not only testify to the religious zeal, national enthusiasm, and heroism ofMuslim women, but also detail the various duties they were called upon to perform from time to time. They did not shirk the humble and unpleasant chores: the digging of graves and the procurement of rations for the army. Not only did the women nurse the wounded in the rear, they also brought in the casualties from the battlefield. Not content with urging men to take a firm stand, sometimes, they actually helped them by joining in the battle. In short, no task was too difficult or too unpleasant for them to attempt.
If you examine the battles of the early period of Islamic history, you will find women engaged in these duties in the rear. The last mentioned services rendered by Muslim women require, however, some elaboration, and we will go into detail to show how nobly the weaker sex among the Muslims discharged this task.
The mother of Anas b. Malik (the Prophet’s servant), Umm Salim, usually accompanied the Prophet to the field. When Taleeb b. ‘Umair adopted Islam and informed his mother of this, she said, “You have sided with the man who deserved the most. Would that I had the strength and the ability of man, I would protect him and fight for him.”
In the battle of the Ditch, the Prophet and his Companions were fighting against the Jews, when Banu Quraiza advanced to the place where Muslim women and children had entrenched themselves. There were no soldiers to protect these women against Banu Quraiza. Meanwhile, a Jew chanced to appear near them. It was feared that the Jew might betray them to Banu Quraiza who would then attack at the earliest opportunity. Safia, the aunt of the Prophet, and the mother of Zubair, asked Hassan b. Thabit to kill the Jew. Seeing his hesitation, Safia herself climbed down with a pole of the pavilion in her hand and killed the Jew with it. This was the first heroic action, says the historian Ibn Athir, done by a, Muslim woman. 
Abu Dawud, Fath-e-Khaibar.
Abu Dawud, Vol. 1, p. 252
 Abu Dawud, Vol. I p. 270.
 Sahih Muslim, Vol. 11, p. 105 (Egypt)
 Tabari Vol VI, p. 2317 (European Edn.)
 Tabari, Vol.V, p. 2363.
 Usud-ul-Chabs, Vol.V. p. 591.
 Isti’ab Taleeb, b.’Umair.
 Usud-ul-Ghabn, description of Safia, Vol.V. p. 591
By Sherif Abdel Azim, Ph.D. (Queens University, Kingston, Ontario, Canada)
Taken from Women in Islam Versus Women in the Judaeo-Christian Tradition The Myth and The Reality
PART 2 – EVE’S LEGACY
The image of Eve as temptress in the Bible has resulted in an extremely negative impact on women throughout the Judaeo-Christian tradition. All women were believed to have inherited from their mother, the Biblical Eve, both her guilt and her guile. Consequently, they were all untrustworthy, morally inferior, and wicked. Menstruation, pregnancy, and childbearing were considered the just punishment for the eternal guilt of the cursed female sex. In order to appreciate how negative the impact of the Biblical Eve was on all her female descendants we have to look at the writings of some of the most important Jews and Christians of all time. Let us start with the Old Testament and look at excerpts from what is called the Wisdom Literature in which we find: “I find more bitter than death the woman who is a snare, whose heart is a trap and whose hands are chains. The man who pleases God will escape her, but the sinner she will ensnare….while I was still searching but not finding, I found one upright man among a thousand but not one upright woman among them all” (Ecclesiastes 7:26-28).
In another part of the Hebrew literature which is found in the Catholic Bible we read: “No wickedness comes anywhere near the wickedness of a woman…..Sin began with a woman and thanks to her we all must die” (Ecclesiasticus 25:19,24).
Jewish Rabbis listed nine curses inflicted on women as a result of the Fall: “To the woman He gave nine curses and death: the burden of the blood of menstruation and the blood of virginity; the burden of pregnancy; the burden of childbirth; the burden of bringing up the children; her head is covered as one in mourning; she pierces her ear like a permanent slave or slave girl who serves her master; she is not to be believed as a witness; and after everything–death.” 2
To the present day, orthodox Jewish men in their daily morning prayer recite “Blessed be God King of the universe that Thou has not made me a woman.” The women, on the other hand, thank God every morning for “making me according to Thy will.” 3 Another prayer found in many Jewish prayer books: “Praised be God that he has not created me a gentile. Praised be God that he has not created me a woman. Praised be God that he has not created me an ignoramus.” 4
The Biblical Eve has played a far bigger role in Christianity than in Judaism. Her sin has been pivotal to the whole Christian faith because the Christian conception of the reason for the mission of Jesus Christ on Earth stems from Eve’s disobedience to God. She had sinned and then seduced Adam to follow her suit. Consequently, God expelled both of them from Heaven to Earth, which had been cursed because of them. They bequeathed their sin, which had not been forgiven by God, to all their descendants and, thus, all humans are born in sin. In order to purify human beings from their ‘original sin’, God had to sacrifice Jesus, who is considered to be the Son of God, on the cross. Therefore, Eve is responsible for her own mistake, her husband’s sin, the original sin of all humanity, and the death of the Son of God. In other words, one woman acting on her own caused the fall of humanity. 5 What about her daughters? They are sinners like her and have to be treated as such. Listen to the severe tone of St. Paul in the New Testament: “A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. I don’t permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man; she must be silent. For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner” (I Timothy 2:11-14).
St. Tertullian was even more blunt than St. Paul, while he was talking to his ‘best beloved sisters’ in the faith, he said: 6 “Do you not know that you are each an Eve? The sentence of God on this sex of yours lives in this age: the guilt must of necessity live too. You are the Devil’s gateway: You are the unsealer of the forbidden tree: You are the first deserter of the divine law: You are she who persuaded him whom the devil was not valiant enough to attack. You destroyed so easily God’s image, man. On account of your desert even the Son of God had to die.”
St. Augustine was faithful to the legacy of his predecessors, he wrote to a friend: “What is the difference whether it is in a wife or a mother, it is still Eve the temptress that we must beware of in any woman……I fail to see what use woman can be to man, if one excludes the function of bearing children.”
Centuries later, St. Thomas Aquinas still considered women as defective: “As regards the individual nature, woman is defective and misbegotten, for the active force in the male seed tends to the production of a perfect likeness in the masculine sex; while the production of woman comes from a defect in the active force or from some material indisposition, or even from some external influence.”
Finally, the renowned reformer Martin Luther could not see any benefit from a woman but bringing into the world as many children as possible regardless of any side effects: “If they become tired or even die, that does not matter. Let them die in childbirth, that’s why they are there”
Again and again all women are denigrated because of the image of Eve the temptress, thanks to the Genesis account. To sum up, the Judaeo- Christian conception of women has been poisoned by the belief in the sinful nature of Eve and her female offspring. I
f we now turn our attention to what the Quran has to say about women, we will soon realize that the Islamic conception of women is radically different from the Judaeo-Christian one. Let the Quran speak for itself:
“For Muslim men and women, for believing men and women, for devout men and women, for true men and women, for men and women who are patient, for men and women who humble themselves, for men and women who give in charity, for men and women who fast, for men and women who guard their chastity, and for men and women who engage much in Allah’s praise– For them all has Allah prepared forgiveness and great reward” (33:35). “
The believers, men and women, are protectors, one of another: they enjoin what is just, and forbid what is evil, they observe regular prayers, practise regular charity, and obey Allah and His Messenger. On them will Allah pour His Mercy: for Allah is Exalted in power, Wise” (9:71).
“And their Lord answered them: Truly I will never cause to be lost the work of any of you, Be you a male or female, you are members one of another” (3:195).
“Whoever works evil will not be requited but by the like thereof, and whoever works a righteous deed -whether man or woman- and is a believer- such will enter the Garden of bliss” (40:40).
“Whoever works righteousness, man or woman, and has faith, verily to him/her we will give a new life that is good and pure, and we will bestow on such their reward according to the best of their actions” (16:97).
It is clear that the Quranic view of women is no different than that of men.. They, both, are God’s creatures whose sublime goal on earth is to worship their Lord, do righteous deeds, and avoid evil and they, both, will be assessed accordingly. The Quran never mentions that the woman is the devil’s gateway or that she is a deceiver by nature. The Quran, also, never mentions that man is God’s image; all men and all women are his creatures, that is all. According to the Quran, a woman’s role on earth is not limited only to childbirth. She is required to do as many good deeds as any other man is required to do. The Quran never says that no upright women have ever existed.. To the contrary, the Quran has instructed all the believers, women as well as men, to follow the example of those ideal women such as the Virgin Mary and the Pharoah’s wife: “And Allah sets forth, As an example to those who believe, the wife of Pharaoh: Behold she said: ‘O my lord build for me, in nearness to you, a mansion in the Garden, and save me from Pharaoh and his doings and save me from those who do wrong.’ And Mary the daughter of Imran who guarded her chastity and We breathed into her body of Our spirit; and she testified to the truth of the words of her Lord and of His revelations and was one of the devout” (66:11-13).
A CALL FROM THE MASJID UL-HARAM TO THE MUSLIM WOMEN OF THE WORLD!
By Sheikh Abdul Rahman al-Sudais
Sheikh Abdul Rahman al-Sudais’s Khutbah “To the Muslim women of the world” is a call to be heeded by all Mulsimahs. What good advice to the women to “Stay at our homes..”— definitely less fitnah if we adhere to this warning insha’allaah. The Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “I haven’t left behind me a fitnah more harmful to men than women ” (Bukhari and Muslim)
All praise is due to Allaah, May peace and blessing be upon Muhammed (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) and his house hold.
My Muslim sisters, you will never be able to reach the perfection that you desire, you wont be able to regain the lost glory of your past, or achieve your highest rank and position unless you follow the teachings of Islaam and unless you stop at the boundaries and limits of the Shariah. This will make your heart love and appreciate the good qualities and will keep you away from bad and evil qualities.
SO STAY AT YOUR HOMES. By Allaah you will be praised, you will please your household and make your home happy, you will perfect your hijab, you will perfect your chastity, relieve others and you will make yourself happy and comfortable. Allaah says: “Oh Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters, and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks all over their bodies. That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is ever oft-forgiving, Most Merciful.” (Surah AL-Ahzab )
So with Islaam you are a protected jewel, but without it you are a doll in the hands of the wrongdoers; a mere object of amusement and merchandise of trade in the hands of human wolves who will destroy your chastity, your honour and your dignity, and then throw you and disregard you as one does with a date fruit and its seed.
So whenever a woman abandons the teachings of Islaam and neglects the proper Islaamic dress and takes easy the matter of hijab, exposing herself to men (by) walking among them and wearing perfume, her dignity and honour vanishes and her brightness disappears, and her modesty dwindles and she becomes a source of fitnah (temptation and trial) for others and the `evils` embrace her. Therefore, oh Muslims woman, who cherishes and holds unto the honour of Islaam (and is proud of the honour of Islaam) and Oh Free, honourable chaste, and protected woman, you are the best successor of the best past generation of the Muslims. Hold fast unto the Book of Allah and the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammed (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam).
Beware of the hands of the wicked plotters and the jealous eyes, and people with bad character and evil souls, who want to lower you from the highness of your esteemed position and dignity, and lower you from your glory of higher rank, and take you out from the circle of your happiness. And beware of the deception and defeat before the open war between hijab and sufoor (revealing beauty), and between chastity and liberalism.
The enemies of Islaam among the Jews and their followers are upset and sleepless over the fact that the Muslim woman is honourable, dignified and protected, so they put her under the spotlight, trap her in nets and shoot with their arrows. Moreover it is strange that some people from our skin and who speak our language follow them and spread their ideas and fulfill their aims and wage in intellectual and cultural war against our Muslims sisters, who are the moisture of our faces, through the alluring and deceiving slogans and charming articles here and there. Thus they falsely and deceivingly call to her freedom of the women and ask, and push, her to work, to coming out of her home. They spread rumors about Muslim women saying: “…The conservative Muslim society (the real one indeed, The Muslim society can only be conservative) is that which half of it does nothing and breathes only from one lung” and “how can a Muslim woman stay prisoner at home between four walls” and other misleading slogans. They want freedom for the women, but in reality they want to free her from her character and etiquette and to strip her from her principles, dignity and honour, and lead her into evil and corruption. They want her to be a fashion model and an item for sale to the naive and simple minded (assuthajj wal busataa). Who is then left to the well being of homes, to the happiness of family, to raise and educate children?
How many young women get trapped and how much tragedy happens when the hijab is destroyed and the jilbab (outer garment) is taken off and the `wolves` (wicked men) devour the women? such is as a result of sufoor and mingling with men in jobs, schools, and market places.
Isn’t it enough reminder what societies, who did not practice the teaching of Islam, fell into in terms of indecency, evils and disappearance in values when they neglected and ignored the matter of the woman? As a result of that there are now repeated calls in these societies asking for the return of a woman to her protected fort; her home. Would any man with the slightest bit of honour and manhood be content to see his wife become a `pasturage` of the eyes of wicked men and to become ` a serving on the dining table`? the current condition of some societies is a witness that when a woman goes out of her home, it is a sign of destruction, loss, corruption, and spread of mischief and indecency in society.
Therefore to all our Muslim Sister in the east and in the west of the Muslim world, I call upon you from this Holy and Pure land , Makkah, to hold fast to the Qura’an and to bite unto the Sunnah of the Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) with the front teeth and to follow the teachings of Islaam and its etiquette.
And to the women organizations all over the world, beware of the stupidity and bad results of the disobedience of the women to the guidance of Islam. Beware of being tempted by the flashing slogans and poisoned publicity against the character of the woman and her principles.
And to the responsible people for the Muslim child in her education and care, I call upon you to fear Allaah subhana wa ta’ala and to fulfill your duty towards her while taking care of her belief, educational and ethical aspects.
A clear limit and divider must be set against indecency, wicked movies and naked pictures that destroy honour and virtue and that develop dayathaa (absence of honor and manhood to the point where a man does not care about the females of his family in terms of what other men may do with them) and indecency.
As to the guardians of women, fathers and husbands, i remind them of their qawaamah (protection and maintenance) of women according to what Allah subhana wa ta’ala said: “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allaah has made one of them excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allaah and to their husbands), and guard in their husbands absence what Allaah orders them to guard. As to those women on whose part you will see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience seek not against them means (of annoyance) Surely Allaah is ever Most High, Most Great.” (Surah An-Nisa)
So they have to fear Allaah and save themselves and their children from punishment of Allaah by raising and educating them according to the teachings of Islam, and they should be warned from being loose and neglectful in this matter. I call on their honour towards their women and their manhood in order to preserve the honour and to protect their mahram women, in addition to protecting their values, principles and characters.
So, O wise people, take a lesson, and be aware and don’t be deceived for the successful is one who is reminded through the mistakes of others, and know that the ummah has reached this sad state and crisis only after it was hit in its system of life and when it neglected the appropriate education and upbringing of its women. And remember that the trustworthy and the trusted Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “I haven’t left behind me a fitnah more harmful to men than women (when they go astray from the guidance of Islam)” – Bukhari and Muslim.
WOMEN MUST ENJOIN GOOD AND FORBID EVIL TOO
The responsibility of women to enjoin good and forbid evil and its importance:
Some people limit the responsibility to enjoin good and forbid evil to the role of men and not women, and make little of the importance and effect of women fulfilling this duty. Many texts have been revealed which indicate responsibility of women to enjoin good and forbid evil, as does the importance of women in this respect become apparent in many ways.
In this section I will discuss this subject, with the help of Allah, under the following headings: 1. The responsibility of women to enjoin good and forbid evil and 2. The importance of women fulfilling this duty.
The responsibility for fulfilling the duty of enjoining good and forbidding evil becomes apparent in the light of the general texts which indicate the obligation of al-Hisba. Likewise, from these texts it becomes apparent that this responsibility clearly applies to women. As Allah wills, I will discuss this topic underneath these two headings: 1. The proof of texts regarding the duty to enjoin good and forbid evil and 2. The texts which clearly prove the responsibility of women in enjoin ing good and forbidding evil.
1. The proof of texts regarding the duty to enjoin good and forbid evil
Many texts from the Noble Qur’an and the authentic Sunnah have indicated the duty of enjoining good and forbidding evil. The language form used in many of these texts, although masculine, also contains and applies to the feminine gender as explained by the scholars, may Allah have mercy on them. For example, Imam Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah said, ‘It has been established in the custom of the Law giver that if a judgement is made in the masculine form, and is not accompanied with a feminine form, then it applies to both men and women, as the male gender is more dominant than the female gender when mentioned together, as in His statement: “…and the witnessess should not refuse when they are called on…”  and His statement: “O You who believe! Fasting has been made compulsory for you.”[3,4]
2. The texts which clearly prove the responsibility of women in enjoining good and forbidding evil
There are texts in the Noble Qur’an and the authentic hadith which prove the responsibility of women in enjoining good and forbidding evil clearly. Among these texts are: 1. Allah’s statement: “O Wives of the Prophet! You are not like any other women. If you keep your duty (to Allah) then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease should be moved with desire but speak in an honourable manner.” 
One of the most respected commentators of the Qur’an, ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Abbas says regarding the explanation of Allah’s statement: ‘and speak in an honourable manner’: “He (Allah) ordered them to enjoin good and forbid evil.”
No one should think that this order applies specifically to the Mothers of the Believers only (the wives of the Prophet (SAW ), as they are addressed in this verse, because although they are the ones addressed by this verse, the rest of the Muslim women are the intended also. Regarding this, the Imam Abu Bakr al-Jassas said: “All these matters are matters by which Allah disciplined the wives of the Prophet (SAW), as an honour to them, and the rest of the women of the believers are meant by them”
2. Allah’s statement: “The believers, men and women are helpers/supporters of one another, they order good and forbid evil and offer their prayers perfectly and pay zakat, and obey Allah and His Messenger. They are the ones Allah will have mercy on. Indeed, Allah is Most Powerful, Most Wise. Allah has promised the believers – men and women – gardens underneath which rivers flow, where they will dwell forever -and beautiful mansions in Gardens of Paradise. But the greatest bliss is the Good Pleasure of Allah. That is the supreme success.” 
Allah, Most Glorious, mentioned five attributes, among them the fulfilment of enjoining good and forbidding evil, and made clear His promise of a great reward for those who have this attribute, and Allah made clear that the female believers can achieve this attribute as can the male believers, and that they have the promise of a good reward as do the male believers.
Imam Ibn an-Nuhas ad-Dimashqi said, ‘In Allah’s statement “…and believing women…” is a proof that to enjoin good and forbid evil is obligatory upon women in the same way as it is obligatory upon men, if they are capable.'
1. Imam Bukhari and Imam Muslim related from ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said, “Indeed are you not all guardians? And each of you is responsible for your flock: So the leader who is in authority over the people is a guardian, and he is responsible for his flock, and a man is guardian over the members of his house, and he is responsible for his flock, and the woman is a guardian over the members her husband’s household and his children, and she is responsible for them, and the man’s servant is a guardian over the wealth of his master and he responsible for it. Indeed, you are all guardians, and all of you are responsible for your flocks.”
Imam al-Khattabi said: ‘The meaning of””guardian” here is: the protector and one entrusted with those under him, who orders them with advice/guidance, and warns them from betraying or wasting that which he has entrusted them with.
So the circumstance of a woman being a guardian dictates that she undertake the duty of enjoining good and forbidding evil when good is neglected, or when evil occurs among those she is responsible for.
The woman will be asked, as will the others who are guardians, about this on the Day of Resurrection, as has been related in the noble hadith: “…and she is responsible for them”, and in the hadith related by Anas, “Surely, Allah will ask every guardian about that which He made him a guardian over, whether he protected it or neglected it.”[12 ]
And in the hadith of Abu Hurayrah, “Every guardian will be asked on the Day of Resurrection, (whether) he carried out the order of Allah or neglected it.”
It is therefore incumbent upon the Muslim woman – as it is upon others who are responsible – to prepare for this question an answer, by fulfilling what Allah has obligated her with before the day upon which neither regret nor sorrow will be of help.
1 See some these texts in my book al-Hisba (pp.41-67)
2 al-Baqarah 282.
3 al-Baqarah 181.
4 Flam al-Muwaqqi’in 1/92-91, condensed.
5 al-Ahzab 12.
6 Taken from Tafsir al-Qurtubi 14/178.
7 Ahkam al-Qur’an 1/160.
8 at-Tawbah 71-72
9 Tanbih ai-Ghafilln an A ‘mat al-Jahilin (p.20).
10 Agreed upon. See Sahih al-Bukhari, The Book of Laws, [Chapter] Allah’s statement: “Obey Allah and obey the Messenger and those in power.” No. 7117, 11/111. his wording, and Sahih Muslim, The Book of Leadership, [Chapter] The virtue of the Just Imam, No. 20(1829), 1/1159.
11 Ma’alim as-Sunan 1/2. See also Sharh an-Nawawi, in which it says, ‘The scholars say: the Ra’i (literally shepherd, or gaurdian) is the protector and guarantor who is obligated with the good of what he has undertaken and what is under his supervision. So in this, is that whoever supervises something, then he is required to be just toward it, and perform that which benefits it in its religion and worldly affairs, and all things related to it. 12/213.
12 Taken from fath al-Bari 13/113. Al-Hafiz ibn Hajar says about him, ‘…and from ibn ‘Adi with an authentic chain from Anas…’
13 Taken from the previous source 13/113- Al-Hafiz ibn Hajar says, ‘…he also has at- Tabarani in al-Awsat from the hadith of Abu Hurayrah…’
WOMEN IN JANNAH
Narrated by Tabarani vol.23 pg.367; Ibn Kathir in his Tafseer under verse 22 Surah 56
Umm-Salamah (Radhiallaahu Anha) mentions that she asked Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) to explain the Aayat, ‘There will be hoorun-een’. (56:22). Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, ‘They will be women with wide eyes having a sharp contrast between the white of the cornea and the black of the iris. They will be fair complexioned and their limbs will be free of hair like the wings of a bird.’
Umm-Salamah (Radhiallaahu Anhu) then asked for an explanation of the verse, ‘They will be like concealed pearls’ (56:23) to which Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) explained that their purity would be like that of a pearl still inside the oyster, untouched by human hands.’
She then asked for an explanation of the verse, ‘They will be good and fair’ (55:70) to which Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) replied, ‘Their character will be good and their faces will be fair.’ She then asked Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) to explain the verse, ‘It will be as if they are preserved eggs.’ Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, ‘Their softness and delicacy would be like that of the skin you see inside the egg under the shell.’
She then asked Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) to explain the verses, ‘We made them virgins, loving and equal in age.’ (56:36, 37). Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) explained, ‘They will be those women who left this world old, grey-haired and purch-skinned. Allah will recreate them after this old-age and will make them loving virgins who would be very passionate towards their husband who in turn would be madly in love with them. They would all be of the same age.’
She then asked, ‘O Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam), are the women of this world superior or the hurs?’ He replied, ‘The women of this world will have superiority over the hurs just as the outer lining of a garment has superiority over the inner lining.’ Umm-e-Salma (Radhiallaahu Anhu) then asked, ‘O Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam), what is the reason for this?’ He answered, ‘Because they performed Salaat, fasted and worshipped Allah. Allah will put light on their faces and silk on their bodies. (the human women) will be fair in complexion and will wear green clothing and yellow jewellery. Their incense-burners will be made of pearls and their combs will be of gold. They will say, ‘We are the women who will stay forever and we will never die. We are the women who will always remain in comfort and we will never die. We are the women who will always remain in comfort and we will never undergo difficulty. We are the women who will stay and we will never leave. Listen, we are happy women and we will never become sad. Glad tidings to those men for whom we are and who are for us.’
She then asked, ‘A women of this world married two, three or four husbands in this world, then dies and enters Jannah with them, who will be her husband?’ Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) answered, ‘O Umm-e-Salma (Radhiallaahu Anhu), she will be allowed to choose between them, so she will choose the one with the best character. She will say to Allah, ‘O Allah, this husband displayed the best character to me in the world, so marry him to me.’ Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) further added, ‘O Umm-e-Salma, good character has gained (for him) the excellence of this world and the hereafter.’
THE MANNERS OF THE WOMAN LEAVING (EXITING) THE HOME (HOUSE)
By Umm ‘Abdillah Al-Waadi’eeyah 
Translated by Abu Muhammad al-Jamaykee
Source: Waseelatus Salafiyyah (www.TheRighteousPath.com)
My Advice to the Women – The Manners of the Woman Leaving (exiting) the home (house)
Not using perfume
A light walk, so that the (bing) noise of her shoes is not heard, Allah ta’ala says: “ . . . and let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment.”Suratun-Noor:31
And if she walks with her sister and there are some men she does not speak with her companion, and this does not mean that the woman’s voice is ‘awrah, but the men hearing the voice of the woman, it is possible that it could lead to fitnah.
That she should ask for permission from her husband if she is married
If she is going a distance which is considered traveling, she doesn’t exit except with a mahram
Not mixing with men
To be endowed with shyness
To lower her gaze
Not taking off her clothing in other than her house, if she means with that displaying (herself), verily it comes on the Prophet (saw) that he said, “any woman who takes off her clothes in other than her husband’s house, verily revealed (unveiled) the sutrah between her and her Lord”
1. She is the daughter or our esteemed and belowed shaykh Muqbil bin Haddee al-Wadee’
THE RULING ON SHAKING HANDS BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN
By Imaam ‘Abdul-‘Azeez Ibn Baaz
Taken from Magazine of the “Islamic University” [Issue 2, 1390H]
Question: “It has become very common amongst us in these days, when a man goes away on a journey and then returns, a group of women from his “group” come to him and greet him and kiss him and so on, during the days of ‘Eid, such as ‘Eid-ul-Fitr and ‘Eid-ul-Adhaa. Is this permissible?”
Answer: It is well known from evidences in the Qur’aan and the Sunnah, that a woman must not shake hands with or kiss a male that is not a mahram to her, whether it is an occasion of celebration or when arriving from a journey or for any other reason. This is because the woman is ‘awrah (i.e. she must be covered) and a fitnah (i.e. a source of temptation). So she must not touch a man that is not considered a mahram  to her, regardless if it is her cousin or someone distant from her. And she must not kiss him or he kiss her.
We do not know of there being any difference of opinion amongst the scholars regarding the prohibition and rejection of this matter. This is because it is from the things that cause fitnah (trials and tests) and it is from the means that lead to what Allah has forbidden from the lewd and shameless acts and the customs that oppose the Divine Legislation. It is not permissible for the Muslims to remain upon these customs and to stay attached to them. Rather they must abandon them and fight against them. And they should give thanks to Allaah for having blessed them with knowledge of His Laws and for enabling him to abandon what angers Him.
Allaah sent the Messengers – at the head of whom was our prophet Muhammad – to call the people to single Allaah out in worship and to obey His commandments, and to abandon what He forbade and to fight against the evil practices (of old).
So it is obligatory to abandon such a practice (of shaking hands). And it is sufficient to give the greetings with speech, without touching or kissing. And there is much sufficiency in what Allaah has legislated and permitted for us over what He forbade and disallowed. Also, the greeting must be done while the woman is wearing the Hijaab, especially with the young females, because uncovering the face is not allowed. This is due to it being from the greatest part of a woman’s beauty that Allaah has forbidden her to expose, where He says: “And let them not expose their beauty, except to their husbands or their fathers or their husbands’ fathers…” [Surah An-Noor: 31]
And Allaah says in Surah Al-Ahzaab: “And if you ask them concerning a matter, then ask them from behind a veil (Hijaab). That is purer for your hearts and for their hearts.” [Surah Ahzaab: 53]
And He says: “Say to your wives and your daughters and the believing women to let them draw (from) their jilbaabs, (placing it down) all over themselves. That is better that they be known (as free women), and so that they won’t be molested. And Allaah is All-Forgiving, the Bestower of Mercy.” [Surah Al-Ahzaab: 59]
And He says: “And the Qawaa’id (old women past age of child-bearing), who do not expect wedlock, there is no sin on them if they discard (i.e. take off) their (outer) garments, without doing so in a manner so as to show off their adornment immorally (tabbaruj). But if they refrain from doing that, this is better for them. And Allaah is the All-Hearer, All-Knower.” [Surah An-Noor: 60]
The “Qawaa’id” here refers to old barren women. Allaah explains that there is no sin on them if they decide to remove their outer garments from off their faces and such, so long as they do not do it in a manner in which they would be exposing their beauty wrongly. But continuing to wear the veil is better for them, due to what it offers from distancing her away from fitnah.
And if they are going to expose their beauty wrongly, then they must not take off their outer garment, but instead continue to veil, even if they are old barren women.
So from all of this, we come to know that the young women are obligated to wear the Hijaab, by way of the veil, in all situations, whether they would be exposing themselves improperly or not. This is because the fitnah that can be caused by them and the danger of their unveiling is greater.
And since Allaah has forbidden the women from unveiling, then forbiddance of touching and kissing (male strangers) takes greater precedence. So it is an obligation to abandon all of this and warn against it, and to advise one another to abandon it. May Allaah direct all of us to what pleases Him and protect us from the things that bring about His Anger. Verily, He is the Most Magnanimous, Most Generous.
 Translator’s Note: From the several ahaadeeth clearly prohibiting shaking hands between men and women not related to each other (i.e. not mahaarim) are: The Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “That a man get struck with an iron needle in his head is better for him than that he touches a woman that is not permissible for him (to touch).” [Reported by At-Tabaraanee, Al-Bayhaqee and others and Imaam Al-Albaanee authenticated it in Silsilat As-Saheehah (1/447-448)] And the Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “Indeed, I do not touch the hands of women.” [At-Tabaraanee in Al-Mu’jam-ul-Kabeer (24/342) and authenticated in Saheeh Al-Jaami’ (no. 8054)] And ‘Aa’ishah (radyAllaahu ‘anhaa) said about the Prophet: “I swear by Allaah! The hand of a woman never touched the hand of Allaah’s Messenger – rather he would take the oath of allegiance from the women verbally.” [Saheeh Muslim (3/1489)]
 Translator’s Note: A mahram is a man a woman is permitted to uncover in front of, such as her husband, brother, father and all those other males mentioned in Surah An-Noor (24: 31).
THE OBLIGATIONS OF THE MUSLIM WOMAN IN THE WEST
By Shaykh Usaamah al-Qoosee
Taken from recorded lecture given by the Shaykh at Call to Islam at Masjid al-Ghurabaa in Luton, UK (29/08/04)
All praises are due to Allaah the Lord of all the worlds, and peace and blessings upon the best of His creation Muhammad and upon his family members and all of his companions: After this:
No matter where the Muslim woman is (in the world), she has rights, responsibilities and obligations. She must present Islaam in the best way regardless of what part of the planet she lives in, but in the West it is even more critical, this is because everybody (i.e. the non-Muslims) are looking at her to see how she acts and behaves, as a wife, as a mother, as a daughter and as a sister, is she presenting the correct image of Islaam, or is she giving the wrong image about this religion? In these countries (i.e. the West) the responsibilities upon the Muslim woman is heavy, indeed it is immense.
If the non-Muslim sees the Muslim woman misbehaving and / or treating her husband and / or family badly then they will think that this is Islaam, so they would look at the Muslim woman and see that she is shouting at her husband and mistreating him, not taking proper care of her children, disrespecting her family and being rude.
The Muslim woman should be focused and should always keep herself under inspection, she should be responsible and accountable since she will be held to account by Allaah (subhaanahu wa t’aalaa) Who Sees and Hears everything. The Muslim woman living in the West should be keen to please Allaah, eager to obey her husband, striving hard to bring up her children in the best way and have a firm willingness to present a bright picture of Islaam in the West. And she should come to know the Salafee manhaj and she should present this, and in doing so she will be presenting Islaam in its pure form, and this is the manhaj of the Prophet (sall-Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam), the manhaj that he (sall-Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) died upon and left his companions (radee Allaahu ‘anhum) upon.
Some of the bad ways that we see some of the Muslim women in the West present Islaam is that they take off their hijaab, dress up and put make up on, dress like the non-Muslim women and imitate them in the way that they wear their hair and put on tight fitting clothes, they then go to the clubs to dance and drink alcohol. It has got to the point that sometimes we encounter Muslim women in the streets or the market places and it does not occur to us that they are Muslim, so we are surprised when we learn that they have names such as Aa’ishah, Faatimah, Khadeejah or Hafsah. They have the appearance and manners of the kuffar but yet they are Muslim. This is an evil thing, but in contrast the Islaamic etiquettes of dress (i.e. the hijaab) protects the Muslim woman wherever she goes.
Allaah (subhaanahu wa t’aalaa) said that women should lower their veils and cover their faces so that they will be recognised and not be harmed or hurt. So the Muslim woman is recognised and well known her protecting her honour, protecting herself and presenting a bright image of Islaam so that the people (even the evil and indecent ones) realise that this woman cares about her honour and for her dignity, so the people respect her, even (in Muslim countries) those who are not practising and spend most of their time chasing women, once they see a woman with her hijaab they lower their gaze with respect because they know that this woman protects her honour, this woman has dignity and has religiousness so that they do not even dare to comment on her, they lower their gaze and they respect her. And the sinners in the Muslim countries who do not pray or fast would still leave room for a Muslim woman (who is covered) to pass freely.
And from the bad images that are presented by some (other) Muslim women is that we see some of them wearing the hijaab from head to toe, but with this we see them wearing high heels. These high heels were designed (in the first place) for women to dance and if the woman tries to walk straight when wearing high heels she would not be able to; rather, she would slip and trip and fall on her face. The people who design high heels have knowledge of anatomy, knowledge of the body of the woman and they know that her joints are not strong (they are weak) unlike the joints of men, so if she wears high heels she will fall upon her face unless she walks in a way which resembles dancing and showing her body (in that the high heels make her wobble from side to side) in order to avoid falling upon her face, so this is another bad image that is presented by some Muslim women.
The Muslim woman does not associate with men, does not mix with them, does not shake hands with them, does not laugh with them and does not act freely with them, although some Muslim women, they think that it is presenting a good image of Islaam if they mix with men, behave freely and laugh and joke with them and feel easy with them. Rather the good image of Islaam is the middle course, to stick to the religion and the middle course is in between falling short and going beyond bounds. The Muslim’s main concern is to please Allaah (subhaanahu wa t’aalaa), And presenting Islaam in the best way means not going beyond bounds and not falling short, so one should not become lenient compromising ones religion in order to present Islaam in a (seemingly) good way and one should not fall short by being harsh and tough with the people in that it frightens them away from Islaam.
Allaah (subhaanahu wa t’aalaa) said: “Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allaah and to their husbands), and guard in the husband’s absence what Allaah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband’s property, etc.).” (Soorat un-Nisaa’ 4:34)
The Messenger of Allaah (sall-Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “If the woman prayed her five (prayers), fasted her month (ramadhaan), protected her private areas, and obeyed her husband, she will enter paradise.” (Ahmad & others)
So what goodness is better than being made to enter paradise! So the righteous woman establishes the prayer observing its obligations and fulfilling its pillars, praying it properly, fasts during ramadhaan and obeys her husband. Obeying the husband is from the most important issues, and we want this image (of Muslim women obeying their husbands) to be the image of Muslim women in the West.
We are in a time of turmoil in which the devils from amongst the jinn and from amongst the humans are working hard to pollute the mind of the Muslim woman by making them think that they are equal to men, so they call to equality of man and woman but they are nothing except liars and they are people who are plotting and planning. The reality is that women are not like men and they never will be. Women have their own nature (with which Allaah created them with), their own characteristics and their own mental and physical capabilities and attributes.
Allaah (subhaanahu wa t’aalaa) said: “O mankind! Be dutiful to your Lord, Who created you from a single person (Adam), and from him (Adam) He created his wife [Hawwa], and from them both He created many men and women…” (Soorat un-Nisaa’ 4:1)
We find in the markets, airports and public places that we have toilets, toilets for men and toilets for women, so those who are calling for equality why don’t they build toilets for both men and women (if they are both equal) as opposed to having separate toilets why don’t they unite the toilets. We see in the mans toilet that they put a kind of toilet so the man can urinate standing up, if men and women are both equal then why don’t they put the same kind of toilet there for women to use. The reason they do not is because the woman is different from the man.
The wife of ‘Imraan (‘alayhis-salaam) said when she was still pregnant that she will put her child (when it was born) at the service of Allaah (subhaanahu wa t’aalaa).
Allaah (subhaanahu wa t’aalaa) said: “Then when she delivered her [child Maryam], she said: ‘O my Lord! I have delivered a female child,’ – and Allaah knew better what she delivered, – ‘And the male is not like the female, and I have named her Maryam, and I seek refuge with You (Allaah) for her and for her offspring from Shaytaan (Satan), the outcast’.” (Soorah Aali ‘Imraan 3:36)
So the wife of ‘Imraan (‘alayhis-salaam) gave birth to a girl, and the statement “and the male is not like the female” is explained in the books of tafsir. Some of the scholars say that it is the statement of Allaah and others say it is what the wife of ‘Imraan (‘alayhis-salaam) said, either way it is a statement of truth.
So the woman is not like the man, be it mentally or physically, and in the West the woman has been over burdened with duties that she is unable to deal with. Now we see that the woman is going out to work (all day long) and when she gets home she has to look after her family too. How can she perform her duties as a wife and as a mother after she has worked all day long? So we she that she arrives home (after going out to work all day) tired, she looks beautiful and soft but yet she is tough and harsh due to her lifestyle (of going out to work). If her husband tells are off she answers him back and is harsh to him and if he tells her to wash the clothes or dishes or to make some food she will say, “it is your turn today, I did it yesterday.” So it is as if the woman has the same rights that the man has and that she has the same duties as the man.
So we see that the woman in the West is oppressed and that her nature has been destroyed and the woman who goes out to work is abused psychologically by her boss and her whole life is full of pressures and many women collapse under the intensity of it, but if these women came to know the true reality of Islaam they would be pleased and would embrace Islaam. What has happened though is that Muslim women are presenting the wrong image of Islaam, so when the non-Muslim woman (the one who is oppressed) sees that they is no difference between her and the Muslim woman she says that we are all the same and she does not see the true reality and beauty of Islaam. Therefore, it is upon the Muslim woman to paint a good image of Islaam, just as the companion Umm Saleem (radee Allaahu ‘anhaa) did as we shall see in the following narration:
Umm Saleem (radee Allaahu ‘anhaa) was the wife of Abu Talhah (radee Allaahu ‘anhu) and together they had a child named Abu ‘Umayr. He was very beloved to Abu Talhah (radee Allaahu ‘anhu), but however after a few years he passed away. So when Abu Talhah (radee Allaahu ‘anhu) entered upon his wife and asked, “How is Abu ‘Umayr?” She answered him saying, “He is in the best of all situations.” Then she beautified herself for her husband and after he had taken pleasure from her she said, “What do you think if a people had given another people some property to look after and they came one day to ask for their property back, do you think they have the right to do so?” Abu Talhah (radee Allaahu ‘anhu) said, “Yes, of course.” So Umm Saleem (radee Allaahu ‘anhaa) said, “Verily, Allaah has taken back His property.” At this Abu Talhah (radee Allaahu ‘anhu) became very angry and said, “You did all of this and then told me the news about my son?” So he went to the Prophet (sall-Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) and told him about what had happened. The Prophet (sall-Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said, “May Allaah give blessings upon that night and what you did together.” They were granted a son from that very night and his name was ‘Abdullaah, and he (‘Abdullaah) had nine other sons, all of whom memorised the Qur’aan. This was in answer to the du’aa of the Prophet (sall-Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam).
So this woman (i.e. Umm Saleem) was patient and was righteous and this is what we want the women in our time to be like, with regards to manners, with regards to patience, with regards to religiousness, this is what we need today. It is imperative that during a time when women in the West are oppressed and are dealt with unjustly that the Muslim woman shows and presents to them the bright picture about Islaam and the Muslim woman, so that they can come to learn about Islaam and realise how pure it is.
If the Muslim woman’s husband falls into financial difficulties and hardships she is patient and she helps him and supports him, she does not squander her own wealth and add extra pressure onto her husband, she becomes more pure in order to help her husband, so at the end of the month if her husband runs out of money she can approach him and give him some money (telling him that she has managed to save some money). We find though that many women squander their money and spend it unwisely and at the end of the month they approach their husbands and ask them for more money, this is not the image of a righteous woman.
The Messenger of Allaah (sall-Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “Every one of you is a guardian, and is responsible for what is in his custody. A lady is a guardian of her husband’s house and is responsible for it.” (Saheeh al-Bukhaaree)
So the Muslim woman is responsible for those under her charge and for her husband’s house, and these are responsibilities and duties in accordance with her nature and her physical and psychological characteristics. However, many of the Muslim women (in Muslim and non-Muslim countries) are affected by the West and their ideas and they have left the home and have started to work alongside men competing with them (i.e. men) to get jobs, and as a result many men cannot find jobs because the women have taken the posts accepting smaller salaries and doing more work for less money. So in this case women are oppressed in the West (and even in Muslim countries). The main point is that women have responsibilities and duties that are in accordance with her nature, the nature with which Allaah created her upon.
One of the main duties of the Muslim woman is to bring up generations cultivated, educated and prepared for the future, but the enemies Islaam say that the Muslim woman is doing nothing in her home and that she has to come out of the house – However, in Islaam the Muslim woman is the one who prepares the generations, the one who cultivates and educates the up and coming generations upon manners and upon dignity. When the Muslim woman leaves her home to go and work outside, the home becomes corrupt because the mother is the school in which the generations are cultivated and educated. Our mothers fulfilled their duties and carried the trust that Allaah entrusted them with.
In general women are more emotional than men, and we do not mean women who have become like men, we mean women who are still women, and in contrast a man is more firm and decisive.
The Messenger of Allaah (sall-Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “Allaah has cursed the women who resemble men and the men who resemble women.” (Saheeh al-Bukhaaree)
There is nothing wrong with the woman being emotional and this is not something which is shameful or something that she should be shy about, for indeed it is needed in our life and is a balance.
If we turn our attention to “Allaah said and His Messenger (sall-Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said” we find that many Muslim women and Muslims in general are not always convinced, but when a disbelieving doctor says such and such we see the Muslim convinced. So when the disbelieving doctor says that breast feeding is better for a child because it helps to protect them from diseases and it strengthens their immune system then the Muslim accepts it, but when Allaah says so in the Qur’aan we find many Muslims not really believing it.
How does the woman who works long hours expect to breast feed her child? And is it not amazing that after research the disbelieving doctors are now saying that breast feeding is what is best to the extent that they are now advising women in the West to breast feed, but yet Muslim women and Muslims in general were not convinced until they heard the disbeliever say it, but when Allaah said it they stood in disbelieve to it.
Allaah (subhaanahu wa t’aalaa) created men and women, is He is All knowing or does He not know His creation? Indeed Allaah (subhaanahu wa t’aalaa) is All Knowing, so why is it that we find Muslims not convinced by that which Allaah (subhaanahu wa t’aalaa) informs us of and commands us with? So we are in dire need of Muslims fully submitting to Allaah (subhaanahu wa t’aalaa) and being certain in that which He tells us, and whatever He orders us with is the truth and it is what is best for us. So, “the male is not like the female” and each one has its own responsibilities and duties and own course in life. So our call is a call to all the Muslim women and it is a call to the truth, a call for them to come back to the natural disposition with which Allaah (subhaanahu wa t’aalaa) has created women upon, the nature which Shaytaan wants to change: “Allaah cursed him. And he (Shaytaan) said: ‘I will take an appointed portion of your slaves; Verily, I will mislead them, and surely, I will arouse in them false desires; and certainly, I will order them to slit the ears of cattle, and indeed I will order them to change the nature created by Allaah’.” (Soorat un-Nisaa’ 118-119)
So Shaytaan wants to change the natural disposition of the woman and he wants to make her like a man (and make the man like a woman). We see today that many men are submissive to their wives and that their wives smack them and tell them off and that they have the final say on matters. So the man does what his wife tells him, whatever she orders him and he is submissive and obedient to her. Everything has been turned upside down in that now the woman drives the car to work, provides for the family and takes care of each and every situation whilst the husband remains submissive to her, so we have changed the way in which Allaah created us and the pure nature that He created us upon. And we ask Allaah (subhaanahu wa t’aalaa) to keep us upon the natural disposition that He created us upon.
If the people use something that Allaah created for other than the purpose for which it was created then He will punish them in this life and in the hereafter. Allaah (subhaanahu wa t’aalaa) created the womb for the woman and not for the man, and the job of the womb is to carry the child until the time of birth. Our grandmothers and our mothers would give birth too many children, and during pregnancy they would walk to the place of their husbands work and give him food (for lunch) and then they would walk back home and all of this would help to make the birth easier on her during labour. Now we see the disbelieving doctors advising women to walk a lot during pregnancy so that giving birth is made easier on them, and now we accept this fact because it is coming from a disbelieving doctor.
So our grandmothers and our mothers would give birth to many children, but today we see a worrying trend in that women and families are only wanting to have one or two children, so they are not using what Allaah gave them for the purpose for which it was created, they are not using their womb for the purpose for which it was created and as a result are getting diseases such as cancer of the womb, and if the woman does not have children (or few children) then she is not using her breast for the purpose for which they were created (i.e. to breast feed) so we find an increase in breast cancer due to this and this is a medical fact. And breast cancer is now wide spread, so much so that there is hardly any woman who has not suffered from breast cancer or who does not know someone who has. And cancer is when the cells in the body do not function properly, they are stimulated in the wrong way which makes them take all the nutrition that comes in them and they start to attack the neighbouring fields and textures of the body which destroys that part of the body until it spreads all around the body and eventually it can lead to death, and this is what happens when that which Allaah created is not used for the purpose that it was created for. Scientific statistics have proven that breast cancer is wide spread amongst the woman who do not breast feed their children and womb cancer is wide spread amongst woman who do not get pregnant, these are scientific statistics which can be checked with scientific authorities or can be read in scientific magazines. By mentioning we hope that it will teach us a lesson, but we find that these lessons were originally (in the first place) in the book of Allaah and the Sunnah of our beloved Prophet (sall-Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam), but as we have stated many names, unfortunately the Muslim only accepts it when it comes from a disbelieving doctor.
So it is incumbent that the Muslim woman fulfils her responsibilities and duties as a wife and a mother, that she preserves the natural disposition that Allaah created her upon, the disposition of Maryam, Khadeejah, Aa’ishah and all the other righteous women (radee-Allaahu ‘anhum).
And peace and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon his family members and all of his companions.
By Shaykh ‘Abdul-Muhsin Al-Qaasim
All praise is due to Allaah, Lord of all the worlds. Peace and blessings be upon the Messenger, his household and companions.
Fellow Muslims! Fear Allaah as He should be feared. Fear of Allaah is a reminder for His devoted servants and it is safety from His punishment.
Dear brethren! Muslim woman attains prosperity by following the path of the best women who lived in the best generation and got nurtured in the house of Prophethood. They are women of high status and outstanding estimation. Allaah praises them in the Qur’aan where He says, “O wives of the Prophet! You are not like any other women. If you keep your duty (to Allaah), then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for adultery) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honourable manner.” (Al-Ahzaab 33:32)
They are blessed and great women. Foremost among them is that intelligent and wise woman, Khadeejah bint Khuwaylid, the religious and noble woman. She grew up upon virtuous characters and manners. She was chaste and gracious. She was known among Makkah womenfolk as ‘the pure woman’. The Messenger of Allaah married her and she became an excellent wife for him. She supported him with her life, wealth and wisdom. During his sorrowful days, he would seek shelter with her and confide in her.
When the first revelation came to him he went to his wife frightened, and he said, “O Khadeejah, I fear for myself.” But Khadeejah responded to his fear with a firm heart. She told him, “By Allaah, Allaah will not disgrace you.”
Islaam started in her house and she was the first person to embrace it. Ibn al-Atheer said, “Khadeejah was the first person to embrace Islaam, according to the consensus of the Muslims. No man or woman ever embraced Islaam before her.”
At the beginning of the Prophet’s mission, he was faced with many tribulations. But she stood by him compassionately and supported him with her outstanding intelligence. Whenever he heard any undesirable words from the people and came to her, she would strengthen and console him. The Prophet said about her, “She believed in me when people denied me, she trusted me when people belied me; she supported me with her wealth when people refused to support me and I was blessed with children by her when I was denied children by other women.” (Ahmad)
Khadeejah was a great and dutiful wife to her husband and an affectionate mother to her children. She gave birth to all the Prophet’s children except Ibraaheem. She was extremely good-mannered. She never argued with her husband and she never bothered him. The Messenger of Allaah said, “Angel Jibreel came to me and said: ‘Give Khadeejah the good tidings that she will have a palace made of hollowed pearls in Paradise and there will be neither noise nor any trouble in it.’” (Al-Bukhaaree and Muslim)
As-Suhaylee said, “She was given the glad tiding of a house in Paradise because she never raised her voice over that of the Prophet and she never bothered him.” She was pleased with her Lord and Allaah is pleased with her.
The Prophet said, “Angel Jibreel told me: ‘When you come to Khadeejah, convey my Lord’s greetings to her and mine as well.” (Al-Bukhaaree and Muslim)
Ibn al-Qayyim said, “Khadeejah was the only woman known to have this honour.”
Allaah loved Khadeejah, so did His angels. The Messenger of Allaah also loved her so much. He said, “I am blessed with her love.” (Muslim)
Whenever the Prophet remembered her, he would mention her in glowing attributes and would show gratitude for her companionship. ‘Aaishah said, “Whenever the Messenger of Allaah remembered Khadeejah, he would never be tired of praising her and invoking Allaah’s forgiveness for her. He appreciated her love and sincerity and he would honour her friends after her death.”
‘Aaishah said, “He would often slaughter a goat, cut it into parts and distribute it to Khadeejah’s friends. And whenever I asked him, ‘Are there no other women in the world except Khadeejah?’ He would say, ‘She was this and that and she bore me children.’” (Al-Bukhaaree)
After her death, Allaah’s Messenger heard her sister’s voice. He them became sad and said, “She reminded me of Khadeejah.”
Khadeejah was perfect in her religion, wisdom and conduct. The Prophet said, “Many men attained perfection, but only three women attained it: Maryam, daughter of ‘Imraan [Jesus’ mother], Aasiyah, Pharaoh’s wife and Khadeejah bint Khuwaylid.” (Ibn Mardooyah)
She preceded the women of this Ummah in righteousness, nobility and splendour. Allaah’s Messenger said, “Maryam [Mary, Jesus’ mother] was the best woman of her time, and the best woman of this Ummah is Khadeejah.” (Al-Bukhaaree and Muslim)
Khadeejah was righteous and made her home righteous. She reaped the fruit of her labour and she and her daughter became the best of the women of the worlds in Paradise. The Prophet said, “The best f the women of Paradise are: Khadeejah, Faatimah, Maryam [Mary] and ‘Aasiyah.” (Ahmad and An-Nasaa’ee)
She occupied a great place in the Prophet’s heart. He did not marry any woman before her neither did he marry any woman or have any concubine while she was still with him until she died. He was extremely distressed with her death. Adh-Dhahabee said, “Khadeejah was intelligent, gracious, religious, chaste and noble. She is one of the dwellers of Paradise.”
Dear brethren! Another great woman of the house of Prophethood is ‘Aaishah, daughter of Aboo Bakr. She was born in the house of truthfulness and piety and she was nurtured in the house of eemaan. Her mother was a companion and her sister, Asmaa, Lady of the Two Girdles and her brother were also companions. Her father is the truthful man of this Ummah. She grew up in the house of knowledge, for her father was the erudite scholar of Quraysh and the highest authority in genealogy. Allaah endowed her with outstanding intelligence and a sharp memory. Ibn Katheer said, “No nation has produced a woman as sharp, knowledgeable, fluent and intelligent as ‘Aaishah.” She excelled the women of her race in knowledge and wisdom. She was blessed with understanding of Islaamic jurisprudence and memorisation of poetry. She was in fact, a treasure of Islaamic sciences. Adh-Dhahabee said, “The most knowledgeable woman of this Ummah is ‘Aaishah. I do not know any woman from the Ummah of Muhammad or from any other nation more knowledgeable than her.”
She excelled all women with her virtues and beautiful companionship. Allaah’s Messenger said, “The superiority of ‘Aaishah over other women is like the superiority of thareed over other kinds of food.” (Al-Bukhaaree and Muslim)
The Messenger of Allaah loved her; and he did not love anything but that which is pleasant.
‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas once asked Allaah’s Messenger, “Who is most beloved to you of all people?” The Prophet answered, “‘Aaishah.” And he said, “And among men?” And he answered, “Her father.” (Al-Bukhaaree)
She was the only virgin the Messenger of Allah married, and the revelation did not come to him in other woman’s blanket but hers. She was chaste and devoted to her Lord. She did not go out of her house except in the night so that men could not see her. She said of herself, “We did not use to go out but only in the night.” This is in line with Allaah’s instruction, “And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance.” (Al-Ahzaab 33:33)
Al-Qurtubee said, “There are resplendent evidences in Islaam that require women to stay at home and not to go out except when necessary. And when it becomes necessary for them to go out they should do so with complete covering of themselves and their adornments.”
Allaah puts whomever He wills to test, and the test is in accordance with one’s eemaan. ‘Aaishah was slandered while she was only twelve. She said, narrating her ordeal in this incidence, “I wept and I could not sleep and I just kept weeping until my parents thought that my liver would burst from weeping.” She said that the trial was so severe that she would weep but could not find any more tears to shed.
Ibn Katheer said, “So Allaah decided to defend her honour, and He revealed ten verses to absolve her. This elevated her status and these verses were recited and they shall continue to be recited till the Day of Resurrection. Allaah testified that she was one of the purest women and promised her forgiveness and a generous provision.
She spent nights caring for the Prophet in his illness until he died in her apartment, on her day and in her bosom.
Sawdah bint Zam‘ah is another of the Prophet’s noble wives. She was pure-hearted and the first woman he married after the death of Khadeejah. She was his only wife for about three years. She was gracious and noble, and the purity of her heart manifested when she gave her days with the Prophet to ‘Aaishah out of consideration for her husband’s feelings and in order to earn reward of her Lord.
Another great woman in the Prophet’s household is Hafsah, daughter of ‘Umar. She was given to observing prayers in the night and performing supererogatory fasting. She grew up in a house in which the cause of Islaam was supported and truth was given prominence. Seven members of her family participated in the battle of Badr. ‘Aaishah said of her, “She was my only competitor among the Prophet’s wives.”
There is also Zaynab bint Khuzaymah al-Hilaaliyyah who was very generous and hastened to perform righteous deeds. She lived with Allaah’s Messenger for only two months and then died.
Another distinguished woman in the house of Prophethood is Umm Habeebah daughter of Aboo Sufyaan, the emigrant and the one who was given to performing meritorious deeds. She was the closest to the Prophet of his wives in terms of blood relation. There was no one among his wives who was more generous than her as far as charity giving is concerned. She migrated to Abyssinia, escaping with her religion. The king of Abyssinia paid her bridal gift on the Prophet’s behalf and got her ready for him.
Another outstanding wife of the Prophet was Umm Salamah, the patient and noble woman. Her name is Hind bint Abee Umayyah, one of the earliest emigrants. When she wanted to migrate to al-Madeenah with her husband Aboo Salamah, her clan separated between her and her husband and son. She said, “Every morning I would go to Abtah [a valley in Makkah] and I would keep weeping until evening. I did so for a whole year or close to a year. They later pitied me and gave my son back to me.”
Her sure faith in Allaah was firm-rooted. When her first husband died, she said the invocation that Allaah’s Messenger taught her, so Allaah gave her a better husband in the person of Allaah’s Messenger. Umm Salamah narrated that the Messenger of Allaah said, “If any Muslim who suffers some calamity says what Allaah has commanded him,” We belong to Allaah and to Him we shall return; O Allaah, reward me for my affliction and give me something better than it in exchange,” Allah will give him something better than it in exchange.’” When Abu Salamah died she said: ‘Which Muslim is better than Abu Salamah whose family was the first to emigrate to the Messenger of Allaah?’ I then said those words, and Allaah gave me the Prophet in exchange.” (Muslim)
Make this supplication your treasure during afflictions, Allaah will provide you with what is better.
Dear brethren! There is a woman among the Prophet’s wives known as Mother of the Poor. She is Zaynab bint Jahsh whose mother is the Prophet’s aunt. She enjoyed nobility of birth and character. She was described by Aboo Nu’aym as, ‘devoted and contented woman’. Allaah married her to His Prophet through an explicit verse from His Book, “So when Zaid had accomplished his desire from her (i.e. divorced her), We gave her to you in marriage.” (Al-Ahzaab 33:37)
Her marriage to the Prophet is a blessing to the Muslim women till the day of Resurrection, for it was after her marriage that Allaah ordained hijaab for the women so that it could serve as a symbol of protection for their honour, chastity and purity.
Zaynab was extremely generous to the poor and the weak. She was highly charitable. In spite of her nobility and high status, she used to work with her hands, tanning and making beads. And she would spend the proceeds for the poor. ‘Aaishah said, “I have not seen a woman better in her adherence to religion, more pious, kinder to the kith and kin and more generous in giving charity than Zaynab.”
Juwayriyyah bint al-Haarith from the tribe of Banoo al-Mustaliq is another of the Prophet’s distinguished wives. Her father was the influential chief of his tribe. She was in herself blessed as she was blessed to her tribe. ‘Aaishah said, “I have not seen a woman who is greater in blessing to her people more than her.” She was given to performing much acts of worship for her Lord. She sincerely and devotedly worshiped her Lord. She would sit down in her prayer place remembering her Lord after Fajr until mid-noon. She said, “The Messenger of Allaah came to me one morning while I was glorifying Allaah. He then went out for some of his needs. When he came back just before mid-noon he said, ‘Are you still there remembering Allaah?’ And I said, ‘Yes.’” (Muslim)
Another honourable wife of Allaah’s Messenger is the beautiful Safiyyah bint Huyayy, a descendant of Prophet Haaroon [Aaron]. She was a noble and intelligent woman. She was highly-placed, religious, deliberate and peace-loving. The Messenger of Allaah told her, “Indeed, you are a daughter of a Prophet [meaning Aaron], your uncle is a Prophet [meaning Moses]; and you are also married to a Prophet.” (At-Tirmidhee)
The feast of her marriage to the Prophet comprised only of butter, cottage cheese and dates. But the marriage was blessed.
Maymoonah bint al-Haarith al-Hilaaliyyah, the woman who was given to being kind to the kith and kin is another eminent wife of the Prophet. She was one of the greatest women. Allaah endowed her with pure heart and performance of much acts of worship. ‘Aaishah said about her, “She was one of the most pious and most generous to the kith and kin among us.”
Fellow Muslims! That is the history of the outstanding women of Islaam, mothers of the faithful. Their virtues are glowing. They had combination of beauties and virtues. It is therefore, incumbent upon Muslim women to make them their models in matters of their religion, their submission to Allaah and His Messenger, their conduct, their consciousness of Allaah, their performance of acts of worship, their truthfulness in words and their spending for the poor. They need to emulate them in their alleviation of other people’s sufferings; and in their efforts to make their children righteous, correct them with patience and in seeking fortification through knowledge and learning from erudite scholars.
They need to emulate them in keeping themselves properly covered, maintaining their chastity, staying at their homes and keeping away from doubtful and lustful things. They should emulate them by avoiding pinning their hopes on this world, heedlessness and forgetfulness or being carried away by outward beauties while the inward is corrupt.
The Muslim women should avoid looking at forbidden things and engaging in amorous conversations with alien men. They should beware of those who are calling to the removal of hijaab and mixing with men.
Muslim woman’s greatness and glory lie in her religion and her hijaab. Allaah says, “O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e. screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allaah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” (Al-Israa 33:59)
Dear Muslims! The Prophet’s wives lived with him humbly in apartments built of brick and palm leaves, but full of eemaan and piety. They showed patience with the Messenger of Allaah over poverty and hunger. Sometimes, a month or two would pass with no cooking fire kindled in their homes. They would spend days with nothing to eat but only dates and water. Sometimes they would make do with water only. Yet they lived in contentedness and patience upon Allaah’s promise that, “The Hereafter is better for you than the present (life of this world).” (Ad-Duhaa 93:4)
And His promise, “And whosoever of you is obedient to Allaah and His Messenger and does righteous good deeds, We shall give her, her reward twice over, and We have prepared for her a noble provision.”
Brethren in Islaam! The Prophet married five of his wives with their ages ranging between forty and sixty. By that he was able to lay an example in taking care of the widow and their orphaned children. He married Khadeejah while she was forty years old, with three children from the previous marriage, while he was unmarried before. He married Zaynab bint Khuzaymah who was an almost sixty-year-old widow. He married Umm Salamah who was a widow with six children. He married Sawdah who was a fifty-five years old widow.
He married some relatives from among his cousins. And he married some women who were not his relatives.
He was a compassionate, dutiful and honourable husband to them all. He lived with them in the most beautiful way. He was always cheerful and kind to them.
Therefore, let those who want to prosper emulate the Messenger of Allaah, who is the best of all creatures. Let the Muslim women follow the path of the righteous wives of the Prophet. For, there is no success for any woman except by following the path of these pious ladies in their righteousness and God-consciousness and in their dutifulness to their husband and children.
 Thareed is a dish of sopped bread, meat and broth.